I bet you thought my going radio silent meant I was no longer trying to re-lose weight (as it so often has meant). Nope. Just super crazy busy.
I have lost 14 pounds since I started this about 6 weeks ago. My goal (as I said at the start) is….
I should be able to lose 2 pounds a week, but let’s even just say 1.5 a week. That should be more than reasonable, and still put me back down to a healthy, moving weight by the time we leave for New Zealand.
So for the first 6 weeks, that would be 9-16 pounds, so I am right on track. I did have a few bad food days, but got back on track after each binge and have been eating moderately in general rather than fasting, so at this time, I am planning to just stay the course and am feeling good.
More in late February after I finish a huge work project.
Silly me, I was using the date that we will arrive in New Zealand, December 18, as my target date, when in fact we will be departing the night of December 16, which results in the December 18 arrival with the 14+ hour flight plus notable time difference.
None that it matters, 2 days is not important. I just like to be accurate with my numbers. 🙂
Anyway, saw the expected multi-pound loss after getting through day 2 successfully. I was at or under 1000 calories and am feeling good. No headache so far, which is great. A headache is common for me when starting a diet, but thankfully it’s staying away thus far.
Otherwise, I went ahead and ordered the Schwinn 270 recumbent to arrive later this week, and tomorrow we will do a bomber run to Yosemite as a family, leaving Tuesday morning and coming back Wednesday evening.
That will keep me busy and distracted. And some hiking will get done as well, as much as I can do as a heffalump anyway.
A small thing admittedly, but not when you have been eating everything in sight for months. One day is a damn fine start.
I even mustered up the courage to step on the scale this morning. It was about what I expected. Painful but familiar.
However the point was not to focus on what I weigh now but rather to give me a starting point to track how much I lose in this next 356 days.
I had under 1000 calories yesterday, and while I did not exercise other than house cleaning, we all know that we dump a lot of water the first week of dieting (and if you are a long time reader, you know it’s common for me to lose 10-13 pounds in my first week of a strict diet after lots of binge time), so I am going to say that I lost one pound after the first day of dieting. That should be a very safe assumption.
I was also mulling on some of the things that helped me be successful last time, especially concerning exercise. I was going to the gym 3-6 days a week but I was pretty much always doing the same thing at the gym – riding a recumbent stationary bike. I was able to ride for longer without my knees, back or butt hurting. So I started looking around for a quality one I could have at home instead, but not too pricey, and website after website give the Schwinn 270 recumbent a “best buy” category and they are on sale right now at Sear’s for under $400. So that seems like a no-brainer. I just need to figure out where I would put it that it would get used, and hopefully by the kids too!
I’m back. I’m here, and I’m ready to do what I do on this blog…
Talk about the challenges and highly personal experience of losing weight.
How much weight?
Not ready to disclose, aka admit, aka publicly own up to how much of the 115 pounds I have regained.
Not all of it. But a lot of it. Too much. Weigh too much, and yes, pun intended.
But that’s okay, I am looking ahead and I have one helluva carrot dangling ahead of me now. Of course if carrots were actually motivational for me, I would never have needed this blog in the first place. But I digress.
Indeed there is great motivation ahead. In 357 days my family and I will depart for the number one destination on my bucket list: New Zealand.
I am literally quivering with excitement. Well, it’s also like 33 degrees in California right now and I am typing by a drafty door, but pretty sure it’s mainly from excitement.
I can’t begin to express how much I have wanted to see New Zealand for most of my adult life, and let’s not forget that I’m a giant dork, so seeing all the Lord of the Rings and Hobbit movies, the incredible landscapes, has only made it a zillion times worse.
Here’s a little video I made for the family…the trip next year was a surprise I gave them for Christmas this year.
I want to hike, and swim, and trek. And to do that, I need to lose a lot of the weight I have regained AND I need to get back in decent cardio shape.
GAME ON! Starting today. I will do whatever it takes to lose as much weight as I can in 357 days, with an equal focus on building my heart and leg muscles back into shape.
I will track and train, and reward myself along the way.
It’s 51 weeks. I should be able to lose 2 pounds a week, but let’s even just say 1.5 a week. That should be more than reasonable, and still put me back down to a healthy, moving weight by the time we leave.
That’s 5,250 calories a week I need to deficit, or 750 a day.
Right now, as much of a slug as I have been, my resting metabolic rate must be quite low. With no additional exercise, I am probably burning around 1400 a day just “existing”. That might be low but I’d rather be conservative, especially at my age.
So If I eat 1200 calories a day then, that would only be a deficit of 200, so I’d have to exercise to burn another 550.
That is do-able, but would be hard as out of shape as I am now. So I think it makes more sense to start with around 1000 calories and try to 350 calories burned, which I should be able to do between walking and standing more as I work, and then over time, my walks can go longer and faster and once I can get back on my bike…that 550 calories is so much easier.
October 10, 2014 was my official 2-year anniversary of starting Kaiser’s Medical Weight Management program. October 2012… truly it seems a lifetime ago. I was over 300 pounds and had been an average of 250 pounds for most of the two decades leading up to that!
They say a picture is worth 1000 words, but there are no words to describe how fundamentally different I feel. If you think I look quite different, trust me, it does not begin to compare to how different I feel.
How different I am.
The photo on the right was taken one year after I had started the program. I was just under 200 pounds for the first time in a long, long, long time.
And now another year later, two years into the program, I am about the same weight. I was 196 this morning. I have been down as low as 188 in the last couple of months though.
So two years later and I am still not at goal weight. Am I disappointed or frustrated?
Sure there are days that come and go, where I wish that I was 30-40-50 pounds thinner, just so I was no longer “overweight”.
But overall, my general sentiment these days is more like….
I AM FUCKING AWESOME!
And that’s for one simple reason: it’s been two years and I have NOT regained the weight. Not only have I never come close to being 300+ again, I have never even come close to being 250# again. Have I regained weight during this two years? Oh hell yeah.
If you’ve read this blog, you know I’ve been bouncing up and down 20# or so pretty regularly.
Note: bouncing up and DOWN. Down baby, down.
I always come down again. Always. Even when I briefly got back as high as 227… which was scary… what did I do? I restarted the program from scratch.
I remediated; self-corrected. Did I need to do something a bit extreme? Again, hell yeah. “Hello… My name is Allison and I have binge eating disorder in addition to being a compulsive overeater.” My reality is not about making the healthy, moderate choices that work for most people. Sometimes cutting off food completely is the best thing I can do for myself to break the cycle.
I won’t tell you I did not fully intendslashhopeslashexpect that the second time of doing the Kaiser program would help me take the rest of my excess weight off. That was pretty much the plan.
Instead, it has left me bouncing between 188 and 203 for a few months now and guess what….?
That’s WAY better than bouncing back and forth between 205 and 227! So much better. Hey I’ve been mostly under 200 pounds now for months, so yay me!
Much of the last two years I was feeling a sense of dire urgency to get all the weight off that I needed to lose. This was largely because in the past, the bajillion other times I have done major diet programs, I never got all the weight off, just big chunks of it, and then I inevitably gained it all back and it usually brought some new friends along. My biggest fear was that I would repeat that cycle, and thus if I did not lose it all, I would end up going right back up to where I had been and it would be yet another failed attempt, in a long line of failed attempts.
I don’t feel that way anymore.
While I am certainly capable of binge-eating my way back to 300 pounds, I just don’t think it’s going to happen. Ever. And that’s a fairly new thing.
My husband said to me well over a year ago, when I had started cycling and was down to about 210 pounds… “Even if you don’t lose any more weight; you’re already so much healthier than you were.”
The heart of the matter.
Yes I want to weigh less than I do now. I don’t want to carry this much weight around as I continue to age and I want to be able to do more physical activities more easily. Every extra pound I am not carrying makes every activity so much easier, and certainly the decades of morbid obesity mean I have done real damage to my knees, hips, feet. Lighter is better for that reason alone!
But if I don’t lose any more weight, even if I stay in the 190s, I am now a vibrant, confident, active, healthy woman. I wear size 14 jeans, which is the national average in the USA now (sad but true). I can shop in regular clothing stores and do moderate levels of nearly any activity. My blood pressure and all standard health metrics (other than BMI) are all in the green.
I can live a healthy life even if I don’t lose any more weight.
The real transformation of Kaiser’s Medical Weight management program was not the weight I’ve lost. It’s the self-awareness and lifestyle changes that have happened. Two years ago I didn’t start a diet, I started on a path that would take me on a journey that will encompass the rest of my life.
I will always have binge eating disorder. I will always be somewhat physically lazy. I will always be attracted by salty, fatty, cheesy, total crap, orgasmically delicious junk foods. I will always be able to consume ridiculous quantities of food without feeling full (because there is something truly wrong with me physically in that regard). I will always need to self-correct for these things, and that self-correction may often entail periods of using meal replacement products (aka critical nutrients that do not resemble food in any manner).
In other words… the rest of my life is probably going to look a lot like the last two years.
And that’s pretty wonderful because the last two years have been the happiest I can remember.
Just to be crystal clear, I am still trying to lose more weight. I still want to end up somewhere between 145-160 pounds and I will be blogging about the ongoing challenges to make that happen and just dealing with food issues in general.
The only change is the timeline… it’s gone from “as soon as possible” to “in this lifetime”.
That said, don’t think I’m not hoping to have a nice chunk gone before my big 5-0 next April. 🙂
Finally, a shout-out to my family that have been so supportive. David, Sage and Rune… thank you for understanding (or at least accepting) that I am never going to be a regular person when it comes to my relationship with food, and giving me all the love and support needed to find a new way to be healthy for myself. I love you all more than words can say, and won’t get any mushier given this is a public forum. 😉
Below are a few random pictures punctuating the life I have enjoyed in the last two years because of this journey and the support of my family.
Before you watch my latest vlog I feel compelled to address two issues up front.
1. Yes, I say “um” a lot. I am hyper aware and working on it. Long time public speaking weakness made worse by the fact that I do NOT script these in any way, shape, or form. I decide on a topic and then I ramble on camera. Kind of like how I write. 😉
2. What’s with the hat you ask? I am going through another round of massive hair loss (from the weight loss – not unusual) and it’s even MORE apparent when my hair is really short as it is now. So basically, my hair looks like complete shit these days but there’s nothing I can do until it starts growing out again.